Just Say Hi

Have you ever met a guy you thought was cute and you kind of knew but were totally shy around him? Then all of a sudden another girl (who isn't his girlfriend) comes along and hugs him and you feel dissapointed like in "Teardrops On My Guitar." I can help you get away from being the girl who comes home crying writing a song about some guy who she likes that doesen't know she exists.

For starters Just Say Hi. If he smiles at you and you have class together then you kind of know him right. Say Hi and see where it takes.

For a long time I have been the girl who has been waiting for the guy to make the first move. Let me tell you it's not fun. Then something happened that changed my life. Now I am more confident especially when it comes to guys. I say Hi and get to know them.

If you want something big to happen then you have to take a chance. Saying Hi does not mean that you are going to marry this guy it is just being friendly. Do you want to be the girl who he flirts back with or doesen't know you exist? If you want him to get to know you then you have to make the first move.

So today if there is that special guy in class who you have been doodling his name all over your notebook say hi. A good icebreaker could be "What was the homework?" Just say hi and see where it takes you. You never know.

Until next time,

Jen

The Fair Weather Friends

Have you ever had that friend who you talked to alot but always had an excuse when you wanted to hang out? Or who you were close to and all of a sudden because they were in advanced classes they are too busy to talk anymore?

Those friends are called Fair weather Friends. You share information that you would tell your best friend but you don't really get to see each other alot. What do you do when it feels like it's too much?

First you have to accept that this friend may just be losing intrest. Everyone is busy and yes some people are busy than others but if you really wanted to spend time with someone you would make time.

The worst part is when you have really big news and you used to tell that person but can't because they are never there anymore. Who do you tell? What do you do?

It stinks but you have to ask yourself do you really want to be second place in this person's life? If you meant as much to them as they did to you then they would make time for you no matter how busy they were.

Maybe this person was in your life for only a season. When you needed someone to talk to they were there and as time went on and you learned from them, then they slowly drifted. That's what's called someone being in your life for a season.

You've heard the saying "Some people stay awhile and others leave footprints in our hearts." It's true just because someone is not there with you doesen't mean that you have to forget about the good times and the effect that they had on you when they were in your life. You also must remember that if someone leaves that means that there is even someone better right around the corner comming into your life and doing something amazing.

See you next time

mixed signals part 2

Last I told you about the time when I had a mixed signals with someone. I didn't tell you what happened after that. It was the day after the dance on the cruise. I was still in Boston and it was the day I was leaving with my class. We all checked out of the hotel and later went to an aquarium. It reminded me of the saying "There are other fish in the sea." Me and that guy would just be friends. I mean I know that I didn't know him that well but when we face rejection as hard as it is we must remember "There are other fish in the sea." It's a phrase that has been said many times. We get down on ourselves when we are rejected weather it's unrequitted love or a break-up. We must remember that phrase. We must look at this person who we had our heart set on and know that just like we met this person we will also meet someone else. So today when you are upset about the person who isn't paying attention to you or doesen't see you as more than a friend remember that there are other fish in the sea. When you least expect it that fish is waiting to be catched.

mixed signals

Have you ever didn't consider a guy who liked you your type then one day all of a sudden you felt differently? I think that it has happened to all of us at one time or another. Mine started when I was very young. When you are young you don't really know what love is but you have a crush on someone and that someone may or may not like you back. There was this guy in my class who was cute and nice but for some reason I didn't like him. My classmates kept saying that he liked me but I said hi and bye to him. Then a year later at a dance he asked me to dance I said to myself A dance doesen't mean anything. Than when the night was over I was so happy. We didn't date or anything but for some reason I think I developed a crush on him. Then when I went away on a class trip and we went on a cruise I thought I would dance with him but the whole night he was dancing with some other girl. I was crushed. Other guys asked me to dance but I said no because it wasn't him. We sometimes wonder when we get hurt with love, is it out there for us? How come other people have luck and the good girls don't? We shouldn't base our future decisions on decisions from the past. Unrequitted love happens and then real love happens. We must remain positive because not all of our realtionships are failures. Just because we got mixed signals with one person just means that that person is not the one for us. We don't know who we are supposed to be with or when we will meet him but everything will fall into place. We just have to believe that love is out there and when we are not looking it will eventually come.

meeting people

Meeting people when you are out of college is very hard to do. It's hard to make new friends because everyone already has their groups. It is something we all must do.

We shouldn't be nervous when meeting new people. We should find the good qualities that attract people to us and apply them to the world.

The first thing is what most of us found out "The Law of Attraction." You have probally heard of it if you ever read or saw "The Secret." Like attracts like so we must focus on positive things.

The second thing is we must learn to accept ourselves fault and all. We can't expect others to find the good in us if we don't find it in ourselves first.

That is my advice for today and good luck for those who want to meet new people.